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Why You Keep Failing at Change: It’s Not About Willpower | Ep. 31 (formerly Ep.3)
What if the reason you keep struggling to change isn’t a lack of discipline, motivation, or willpower? What if it’s your identity? This is one of my favorite episodes ...
Why Taking a Break From Alcohol Never Works (And What Actually Does) | Ep. 30
You took 30 days off. Then 60. Then 90. You proved you could do it. And then you went right back. Six months later, you're in the same place, asking yourself the same ...
Low Libido After 50? Your Hormones May Be the Missing Piece | Ep. 29
Your energy is crashing by 2pm. Your sex drive isn't what it was. You're gaining weight even though you're doing everything right. And you're telling yourself it's jus...
How to Relax Without Alcohol | Why You Can’t Relax After You Quit Drinking | Ep. 28
You quit drinking. You thought you'd feel amazing. Instead, you can't sleep, you can't sit still, and your brain is screaming for something, anything, to turn off the ...
What You Feed Grows, What You Starve Dies | Ep. 27
You can stop drinking and still starve your marriage. You can stop scrolling and still starve your health. You can quit the thing that's hurting you and never start bu...
I'm Not Training for 60. I'm Training for 70. | Project 60 Officially Begins! | Ep. 26
I turn 60 in less than six months. And I made a decision: I'm not arriving there by accident. I'm not interested in a party or a trip. I'm interested in who I get to b...
25 Hard Truths I Learned the Hard Way | No Frameworks. Just Honesty. | Ep. 25
No frameworks today. No five-step method. No guest. Just 25 hard truths in 25 minutes from almost 10 years of living alcohol-free and thousands of coaching conversatio...
One Decision Won't Change Your Life. Thousands of Small Ones Will. (Part Two) | Ep. 24
You made the decision. You committed. You know your why. And then you woke up the next morning in the same house, with the same spouse, the same job, the same stress, ...
Why You Keep Going Back To Your Comfort Zone | DECIDE Part One | Ep. 23
You've tried to change before. Maybe it lasted 30 days. Maybe 90. Maybe even a year. And then you went right back. And the worst part wasn't the behavior. It was the v...
You Don't Need a Rock Bottom - You Need Your Own Enough | Ep. 22
Jumping into a pool in my bra and underwear at a 4th of July party wasn't enough. Passing out on my husband's shoulder five minutes into a Tony Bennett and Lady Gaga c...
Questioning Your Faith: The Gray Areas of Spirituality | Ep. 21
People will talk about politics. They'll talk about money. They'll even talk about their drinking. But faith? That's where most people go silent. In this episode of Be...
On Ozempic and Still Drinking? | GLP-1s, Antidepressants, and What Nobody's Telling You |Ep.20
Millions of people are currently taking a GLP-1 medication or an antidepressant. Many of them are also drinking. Very few of them have been told what's actually happen...
How to Stop an Urge Before It Wins | A 5-Step Neuroscience Tool | Ep. 19
What happens when you feel the urge or nudge to drink and you know you are better off without it? Back in 2018, I was 18 months sober, standing in a grocery store, sta...
Why High Performers Ignore What’s Broken (And the 5-Minute Habit That Changes Everything) |Ep.18
You already know something is off. You've known for a while. And yet you keep hoping it'll somehow fix itself while you pour another drink to make it easier to not thi...
We Thought We Had More Time | What My Father's Unexpected Passing Taught Me About Life | Ep.17
My dad passed away the morning of this recording. This episode wasn't planned. I hit record because something happened this week that made everything else feel insigni...
We Fasted for 3 Days (No Food, No Noise, No Phone) | What Happened Spiritually and Physically | Ep.16
We went away for our 37th wedding anniversary and we didn't eat a single thing for three days. No food, no phone, no noise. Just water, sea salt, worship music, and Go...
The Sandwich Generation Explained: Empty Nest, Aging Parents & Midlife Purpose | Ep. 15
You raised them to leave. And they did. So why does it feel like grief? In Episode 15 of Beyond the Gray, Kari Schwear talks about the gray area that nobody warns you ...
1,000 Days Sober: How a Teacher Stopped Using Alcohol as a Personality | Ep.14
He wasn't drinking because he loved alcohol. He was drinking because he didn't think people would like the real him. In Episode 14 of Beyond the Gray, Kari welcomes Bi...
Gray Area Drinking Explained | Not an Alcoholic, But Not Fine Either | Ep.13
There's a name for what you've been feeling. You're not an alcoholic. But you're not fine either. And nearly one in four American adults are in the exact same place ri...
You Have 3 Years Left to Live - What Are You Waiting For? | A Wake-Up Call for Over 50 | Ep.12
If you only had three years left, what would you change? Not hypothetically. Actually. Would you keep drinking the way you are? Would you stay in the marriage you've b...